One of my favorite blog, A Cup of Jo, recently posted the sweetest small wedding ever. It reminded me so much about our wedding almost two years ago. I am a sucker for low-key and small weddings – they are so personal and intimate and holds the best memory over years. They can be done tastefully on a low budget and with minimal stress.
Our wedding anniversary is two weeks away from today. As much as I loved this man enough to marry him two years ago, my love and respect to him still grew everyday thereafter. In this spirit, I would like to devote today’s posts to look back on our wedding. It was so simple and sweet and stress-free – just an amazing experience we had with each other. Every minutes of the memory I had of that day is the smile on hubby’s face and the happiness in his eyes.
Lots of our friend got married in the past a few years and all of them had traditional, big weddings that involves a year or two of planning. Reception halls, catering, big dress, flowers, photographer, bridemaids, and several parties leading to eventually the big party. The idea of having all the family and good friends celebrating with us sounded nice, but it was not an option for us because both of our families are overseas, and even more complicated – in different countries. All my families except my sister lived in China, and all hubby’s family members lived in Poland, except his mother who was in NYC. We also recently moved to NC from California. So all our good friends were in California. No matter where we planned to have our wedding, we would have to fly the other two parties overseas. And unfortunately, as Polish and Chinese citizens, none of our family members can get into U.S. nor the other country without visa. And, most of family members only speak their native language.
Some of our friends are also immigrants. Their way of dealing with the same problem is to have two weddings, one with each family in their home country/location. The wedding couple and their parents are the one who fly around. This made wedding planning very difficult because the weddings are not taken place in the city their live. And there are two parties to pay for. Only thinking about these made us feel stressed, Therefore we decided – we are not having a wedding at all!
We decided to get married in courthouse and to invite no guest. We wanted just us. We wanted to be able to be silly and focus on each other. We also did not want to spend any money on the wedding or to have any pressure to entertain anyone else except each other.
We decided to tell all the friends afterwards, but we called our family first. All our families were amazingly supportive. Except hubby’s mom who really wanted to be here with us, none of our family insisted to present at our wedding. All the sudden we were able to plan any wedding we wanted. So … we sat down and planned it in one evening!
Every decision became so easy when there were only two people to satisfy. And it was so amazing to find out that we were so aligned together. When? Quickly. It was June and hubby’s 31st birthday was in a month – let us do it the last day in his 30. Where? Court house of course. We live in NC where everyone gets married in churches and there was no available options for atheists except courthouse. How much time off? His birthday was Friday so we decided to take Thursday off for the wedding and his birthday off so we could have a four-day weekend. (I actually went to work on Friday so hubby could hang out with his mom, our only guest by themselves.) Rings? We are both strongly against diamond industry so we went on Ebay and picked out two black tungsten carbide bands for $30 (including free shipping!). We also did not want to “kill flowers” on our wedding day so we ordered a small artificial bouquet off Ebay as well. Clothing? Hubby had one set of nice suits and tie and shoes that was purchased from his cousin’s wedding a few years ago. And I had a pair of bridesmaid shoes that had some heels. So within one hour we had everything we needed except my dress and photographer. It felt incredible – like we fell in love all over again and the connection between us was the very reason we wanted to marry each other. 🙂
The following week we got the paperwork during lunch break and I got my dress from Macy’s for $80. We had nothing to do for the wedding except waiting for it to happen and it was actually hard to wait for that day! The morning of our wedding day my mother-in-law and I went to a hair salon to blow dry our hair. We did not say anything about the wedding until we got there and everyone in the store got so excited and did our makeup for free! It felt crazy and wild that no one knew except our parents and my sister haha. After getting our hair done, my mother-in-law and I stood outside of the store waiting for hubby to pick up up to the courthouse. We started joking that he could have run away with our dogs and could have reached Virginia by then and we just started laughing so hard. Hubby was so scared to see us laughing by the curb with tears running down our makeup and wild hair all over our face. We told him the joke then we all started giggling in the car while driving to the courthouse it almost felt like a prank. LOL.
We also brought our dog to the wedding – one we wanted her to be in our photoshoot after the wedding and two she has bad separation anxiety we just did not want to go home to shredded pillows. Of course she had to wait in the car when we were in the court house. Hubby was so worried that she was gonna got too hot in the car. So we left the car running and locked, ran into the court and hubby was like “our dog was in the car please marry us quickly”. The judge was so not prepared for such request so he married us the most simple form possible which took like two minutes. Haha. It was so down-to-the-earth and this was exactly the man I wanted to marry!
After a quick exchanging of “I do” and the rings we went to a nearby lake and took some photos as a family. During the photoshoot we called our family overseas and got big congrats from them. Then we went to our favorite brunch place in town and ate huge pancakes as the only meal of the day then went home and napped for a couple hours – something we loved to do on weekends – it was such a perfect day and the best part is that we were just so us.
I often hear people ask married couple ” what would you do differently if you got married again?” I guess if I had the choice I would like to had my parents at the wedding, so we could have had some nice family photo together and I am sure that my mom would have loved that. It was also a perfect opportunity for our parents to meet each other – something which is still yet to happen! But other than that I would totally have it done exactly the same way if I had the change to re-live my wedding day.
If you have had your wedding, how did you plan your wedding and what was the best part of it? If your wedding day is still yet to come, how do you want it to be?